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Being a Cougar
Saturday, August 9, 2008

It was never my plan, but after having lots and lots of young men hit on me online (here and elsewhere) I succumbed to temptation and had my way with some of them. Or maybe it was that they had their way with me. Some hot fun, I assure you. I do enjoy a hard young body and even more a hard young cock, especially when they can stay hard for long periods of time and even better get hard again a short time after cumming. Don't get me wrong, I still want a long term relationship with an age appropriate man, but until that comes along, I intend to have some fun (safe fun of course.)

There are down sides to being with younger men though. Not so much the lack of shared history... I never ran with the pack anyway, always a bit of a lone wolf so I don't necessarily share history with men my age either. Not lack of conversation- I live in a college town and the young men I have been with have been top caliber intellects with good senses of humor. The problem is that these young guys have friends and they don't want their friends to see them with me. It would be embaressing, if any of those friends caught on to what was going on. So it has to be discrete, sort of like cheating with someone who is in a relationship (which I never knowingly do.)

Biggest problem is when first meeting these guys. I always choose to meet in public first, for safety and so that we can assess each other before proceeding to the bedroom. In fact, I usually make them wait for our second meeting if I do choose to be intimate, and that often means they have second thoughts (something that rarely happens if you just meet in private and get naked right away.)

I was supposed to meet a young man last night. I was fifteen minutes late but called to tell him that I was almost there- it went straight to the answering machine. I looked around when I arrived at my destination but the place was basically full of young men who looked a lot like the one photo he had sent me. I'm pretty sure I was the only fat middle aged woman there so I figured that having cruised through he would come to me if I sat alone. Nope. Eventually (after trying to call him again) I left. One guy seemed to kind of make eye contact with me as I left. It might have been him, in a big group of people. No way was I going to approach him there and it occurred to me that if some of his friends had been in that bar where he was supposed to meet me, he would have had a hard time breaking away to join me.

Lesson learned? Well, some might say I should just give up on these young jerks. I see the bigger picture. I LIKE hot sex with young men. They are the ones who approach me, not the other way around (usually.) As the cougar, I need to orchestrate things in such a way that they don't get spooked and run away like Bambi into the woods. So from now on we meet in places where mostly old folks go, not bars full of the young and the hip. Do people even say hip anymore? Wonder if it will work. Now if someone could just tell me where old people go I will be set. Hey maybe I would even find an age appropriate guy if I know that tidbit of information.

 



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Saturday, August 9, 2008 at 9:57pm (MST)

If I run away, it's only because I ran into your bed room. :D

Sunday, August 10, 2008 at 12:14am (MST)

having been the boy-toy to a few cougars in my day, a suggestion - rather than a bar no doubt crowded with his peer group, go for someplace a little more out of the way for that first meet-n-flirt...     first meetings don't have to be long, it's a mutual screening thing...   a bookstore, a pet store...   department store at the mall...    you can simply tell the young man to "meet me by the dog kibble and flirt with me as we 'shop'...     then you can always head off for coffee or something more if you like, but the first meeting keeps you away from his issues (being seen with *gasp* an older woman)...     granted, this doesn't solve the longer term problem of being seen in public if it gets that far...  but it may just get you past the initial screening and into his bed...

Sunday, August 10, 2008 at 7:48am (MST)

hang in there, NG.  being a cougar is great fun and entertaining.  quite a few years ago, when i was in my early 20s I answered a swinger's ad and made a date.  i was SO boned at the thought of meeting her after seeing her photo in the magazine and calling her up.  her ad said that she was in her 40s, but I think that she was north of 50.  however, whatever disappointment i had, it was easily overcome because she was a sex tiger.  MMMMMMM.... she showed me so many things ... i saw her for a few years and i think she was the most rewarding partner that i ever had.  of course, i gave her good sex and each "date" we would fuck two or three times.  she was incredible. 

so, i think that maybe you just have to hang in there and you'll make the right connection eventually.  i think that you gotta go where you are comfortable, after all, one of your attractions is that you're going to take the lead, and you can't take the lead if you're not comfortable with the setting. 

good luck to you. 

Sunday, August 10, 2008 at 11:31pm (MST)


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